Boys! Eat properly
Posted on August 26, 2008
Filed Under Parenting & Kids | 5 Comments
We’ve been trying not to grow overly reliant on our domestic help. After all, these are our children and its really sad if we have to say we could not handle them without the help of our maid.
Thus for family outings on weekends, Lilik could take the time off for herself. Of course, on numerous occasions, she joined us. But not because we needed her help. Rather, she has been so much part of the family, we enjoyed her company.
However, of late, we have not been too successful with dining with the 3 boys. So we decided not to bring Xuan along. He is really squirmy. We would end up taking turns to carry the baby and feeding the older boys. So much for a decent meal. But recently Xuan pleaded with us to bring him through his non-verbal communications. Well, he’s part of the family after all and we should not exclude him. So, yesterday, we brought him along for ice cream after dinner.
Hubby went to park the car. The older boys were fighting over the ice cream. And before I could place my order, the baby spilled cold water all over himself. We headed straight home! The boys got a good scolding and were sent straight to bed.
It was infurating!
Is there any way to cope with 3 active boys without the maid? Is there any way to enjoy a good meal with the boys [and a baby]? Is there any way I could develope the patience to guide the boys without raising my voice?
I believe there is.
And I am determined to find the way.
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perhaps adopt the malay moms attitude of tidak apa? bleh.. anyway, when i go out alone with my 2 rascals, i will remind, remind and remind them on behavior.. i will remind #1 to take care of #2 repeatedly.. then if he indeed does that, when we reached home, i will make a very big deal out of it and keep on praising, “wah.. ken is such a good boy.. ken is such a good kor kor in taking care of didi.. etc”.. then hug him.. he will grin from ear to ear.. then next time before going out, remind #1 again of his past good behavior.. but of cos, sometimes can be bad behavior too.. but again, i hv only 2.
hi janice,
i have dropped you an email sometimes back
anyway, just to contribute to this entry..hahaaa..
handling 3 is definitely not easy, epecially of young age, but i think it would good if the elder one can be encourage to set a good example “You are the elder bro, so you can show didi how good and best you can eat by yourself”. In this way, it motivates him to eat himself.
Left 2 more, the middle one can be guide by the elder one (maybe with some advices by the side). So left the smallest Xuan which really needs you or your hubby support. Since he is rather young.
For me, with one single kid now age 3, i normally feed her before i eat. But sometimes she can do self feeding, provided i can stand the mess and slow french dining
Aren’t your two older boys self feeding at this age? If you want your children to be independent, you would need to train them like so at home. I see many parents with maids would allow their children to get off the table under the maid’s supervision the minute they get restless or allow the maid to feed the child when he or she is not eating simply because it is the more convenient way. It is a vicious cycle, the more attention we give them, the more dependent and the shorter their attention span would be.
I let PB take care of the cleaning.. if the kid mess up.. that way .. i never ever get upset with the brat… muahahah!
Hi Janice
I can foresee this might happen to me when my no. 3 is out
Similar situation happened to us before and we will remind our 2 kids what happened back then and so far it worked. But I am not sure when no.3 is born. Hope you will be able to find a way soon….
Take care!